How To Get Over Someone You Never Dated

Getting over someone you never dated is almost as painful and heartbreaking as a gruesome breakup. Getting Over someone you never dated might be even harder because most of the time you are left without closure or a reason. The process of healing and moving on feels like a long winding road might be a lonesome journey.

You are left with a broken heart and feelings that were not resonated. The journey of getting over someone you never dated is a long and frustrating journey and it might end up shaking your self-esteem and confidence.

Reasons why you are finding it difficult to move on

1. You are still in denial about your and their feelings towards you
2. You are still hoping they would reciprocate feelings
3. You are still holding onto the good memories
4. You have put them up on a pedestal thing of them as perfect
5. You deem them as they are “the one ” for you

Here are some useful tips that might help you in moving on and healing

• Stop Looking for Closure
• Stop Cyber Stalking them
• Practice Self–love
• Journal your thoughts
• Invest Time in yourself
• Give it time
• Talk to your loved ones
• Start dating

Stop Looking for Closure

If you are interested or like someone who in spite of showing interest on the initial days of talking, ghosted you or distance themselves from you are likely the ones to have changed their minds about you.

You will find yourself left with a lot of unanswered questions, and you might find yourself seeking answers from them or asking for closure, But it is more than likely that you would not be able to get one. To truly get over them you have to find your own closure, convince yourself that some questions are better when left unanswered.

Stop Cyber Stalking them

One of the major steps of getting over someone you never dated is to unfollow and remove them from all your social media account.

You might find yourself obsessively stalking their profile trying to know about their whereabouts and looking through their pictures. Stalking them is only going to pull you back and would make your process of moving on from them even harder for you. Re-reading your texts and messages from them will also bring up the old memories and the time you have spent with them, which will only result in disappointment and pain. It is advisable that you might as well delete or archive the chats that you had with the person. This might be a good way to start your journey of moving on.

Practice Self–love

When you like or love someone who did not reciprocate with similar feelings, not only it leaves you heartbroken but also directly affects your self-esteem and confidence.

you are at one of the most vulnerable stages of your while you are dealing with heartbreak. It takes a lot of courage, resilience to move on. Give yourself the extra love you deserve. Pamper yourself, take yourself out on a date. Rather than seeking validation from someone give yourself the validation that you need. You might require the help of professional help to get back on your feet to rebuild your self-confidence and broken self-esteem. Never be apologetic or ashamed of asking for help. Give yourself the time rather than be harsh on yourself give yourself the glow-up and the care you deserve.

Journal your thoughts

There will be days when would want to reach out to them, pour your heart out to them, and seek answers and explanations. But it is best advisable that you, try to cut off communication with them and not reach out to them, it will only pull you down and keep you going in circles.

Instead, try maintaining a journal, and whenever you have the urge of reaching out to them, write down whatever is that you wanted to say in the journal. Journaling can help you negate your emotions better and help you deal with them in a much better way. Journaling is a healthy outlet for your emotions and can be of major help in your journey of healing and moving on.

Invest Time in yourself

While you are trying to move on, it is essential that you invest time in yourself. Rather than spending all your time in trying to think about what could try focusing on the present and what is there for you

Try to pick up new hobbies which will keep you engaged and keep your minds off them. Do anything you enjoy doing, like start reading a new book, re-watch all your old favorite TV shows. Developing a morning routine or a workout regime or mindful meditation routine, self-care is extremely essential while you trying to move on. This might also give you a chance to reinvent yourself.

Give it time

Moving on from someone whom you never dated can be painful and a long winding process, it comes with side effects of heartbreak, self-doubt and you seem to get stuck in the idea of the labyrinth of what-ifs.

The process of moving on would not be an easy road it would. As it said time heals all wounds, give yourself the time to heal from the heartbreak. Do not try to rush the journey, and do not rush your journey. Do not invalidate feelings, even if you did not date you are feeling are very much real and valid. Have faith in the process and yourself. Try to actively push back any thought you have of them, you will come out of the journey as a whole new person. Allow yourself some time.

Talk to your loved ones

You might find it difficult to confide in someone about what you are going through since you never officially dated them, you might fear being judged.

Reach out to a friend or family who you trust and do not feel judged in front of. Confide in them on what you are feeling, this will give your emotions the right outlet also you might end up getting some much-nedded help and guidance and support.

Start dating

That being said, it seems almost emotionally impossible to put yourself out there and date again.

It will take a lot of courage to start dating again, but dwelling on the past is not going to help . Introduce yourself to new people or else you will never find someone who is actually meant for you.

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