Make It to The Second Date (#6 Simple First date Tips For Guys!)

Wow! You asked her out to date and she agreed! Congratulations on that! You know how fussy girls can be to even accept going out for a date. A first date at that. Whether it is online or in-person, you have heard stories of disasters on first dates. I understand that not only introverts, even the best of guys do get a sweaty palm when it comes to a First date.

nervous about the first date

It is nerve-wracking as the flow of questions and doubts bounce off your palpitating heart. No worries. The How and What of First date strategies and tips to make the First date ring in the second one and the third… First dates are more about making it fun and flirtatious.

#1 Get to know her

First things first. Get to know who your date is. If you have agreed to go out on a date, you have surely known each other. Catch up with who she is. No, don’t stalk her online.

Getting to know his first date

 Even though you met her on a dating app, read her interests on her profile. Go through the profile on social media. Learn about her interests. Get to know from common friends. Does she read? Does she like Stand Up comedians, what about her family and friend circle? It saves you walking into a dark room, so to say. The conversation will leap manifolds higher and gain you a few brownie points too.

 #2 Your date is nervous too

the girl is nervous about her guy
the girl is nervous about her guy

One thing you tend to forget is that your girl is on tenterhooks as you are. The focus on her mind is her date. She is also going through a surge of doubts as to what to wear; what to talk; which bag should she carry; should she leave her hair open. Even if it is not her first date, she is nervous. It is a tried and tested fact that if we consider others as normal as we are; that they too may be going through the same as we are, it helps in calming ourselves. Be aware that overthinking is not going to help you calm down. Try shifting your thoughts to how common it is that both of you are nervous and excited about the First date.

#3 Planning the date

Date tip next is planning where to meet up. Suggest your planning. Offer her a choice. Be flexible to a No as an answer. One thing that most guys do not get it clear is that they need not be very accommodating with where to go. It is another thing that you want her to think you are a very agreeable kind of a guy, but over time this can turn annoying.

Even if it is for a coffee, it is best to consider giving her suggestions of the good places you hang out at. This way you too can get to know her choice of places. In this volley of suggestions, it could also demonstrate that you are a considerate, out-going kind of a guy and not somebody who is not social and lives under a stone.

#4 Compliments begets Confidence

complimenting makes a first date memorable
complimenting makes a first date memorable

So both of you are a bundle of nerves sitting across each other. One sure shot way to detangle the nerves is to compliment her. Be sincere in your compliment. Be honest. People always like to hear good things told to them about them. Even if praising is not your comfort zone, do it. It instantly breaks down barriers of awkwardness on your First date. You can start your date by complimenting her looks. A sincere “you look beautiful tonight” is manners.

Having said that, take care not to tread on her looks more than that. You can proceed to compliment on what she pursues in her career or studies and aptly lace it with the fact that she is possessing few skills and traits. This may set an impression that you are a guy who appreciates more than physical beauty.

#5 What next?… to talk?

No sweat. Conversation on the First date flows organically. Yes? No! You need to kindle a conversation. Questions. Open-ended questions will trigger a conversation big time. So how do you pose open-ended questions versus closed-ended questions? It is simple.

When you ask a question,” Do you like to watch films?” you will get an answer-“yes’ or a “No”. It is tough to move ahead in a conversation with a Yes/No answer. Eventually, both of you will face a silence embedded with smiles at each other. You can do better than this with an interesting person like her. Actually!

Before you meet up with your date, think of all the possible questions related to her interests that you would like to ask her to take on. Ask questions beginning with How do you (do)… or What is you (opinion) about…? or why don’t you(like)…? These questions will give her a chance to express her thoughts on a topic. While at it, do remember to subtly let her know you have been looking at her profile prior to the date. It will lead to an exchange of views and take a conversation to a next level.

#6 Avoid getting physical

To kiss or not to kiss? Not to kiss. Questions, as she likes, may creep into your thoughts. It is best to keep getting to know each other well on your first date. Yes, holding hands will not repel her while she is still finding a comfortable vibe with you. After the second date, you will probably get to know if she likes you and her willingness to have physical closeness. Remember not to end your date in awkwardness and silence. The best that you can give each other is a warm hug when you leave or say your Byes.

To sum up

Being yourself will encourage her too to be herself. Own up goof up with humour. The first date ought to be about having fun and being a little flirtatious. With all those First date tips up there executed meticulously, you will hear from her for a second date, very soon!